When Sober Curious Strikes Past Dry January


Initially of 2025, the previous US Surgeon Normal issued an advisory on the hyperlink between alcohol consumption and most cancers danger. Whereas this can be a sobering name to motion, there isn’t any denying that sober curiosity has elevated not too long ago. From Dry January to extra manufacturers creating alcohol-free drinks to the rise of mainstream mocktails, now greater than ever even informal drinkers have gotten sober curious and analyzing their relationship with alcohol.

Final yr in Episode 146 of the FBG Podcast, Sobriety Coach, and Founding father of Sober Wild, Krysty Krywko, Ed.D, joined our EIC Alison for an interview on sobriety. In the present day we’re persevering with this dialog with Krysty. Dry January has handed however definitely not the questions on what we will do if we’re interested by a sober (utterly alcohol free), or damp (a discount in alcohol consumption), life. 

Tam: Ought to we strategy ingesting as all or nothing, particularly if we’re sober curious?

Krysty: I feel it’s a really private determination, however when you’re any form of a daily drinker (which means three or 4 nights every week “simply to unwind”) then alcohol is impacting the way in which you are feeling – mentally, emotionally, and bodily – your physique simply doesn’t know there’s one other means. For those who’re not ingesting in the course of the week, however then ingesting a few bottles of wine over the weekend, you by no means actually get the prospect to see how your physique and thoughts reacts to no alcohol. Anna Lembke, in her ebook, Dopamine Nation: Discovering Steadiness within the Age of Indulgence, talks about how “abstaining from our drug of alternative for a minimum of 4 weeks offers clarifying behaviors. Perception that merely is just not attainable whereas we proceed to make use of.” In different phrases, you haven’t any concept how shitty you actually really feel once you’re utilizing a substance that’s making you are feeling shitty. It normally takes just a few weeks on your physique to regulate to the truth that you’re now not consuming a poisonous substance.

 

Tam: Are there concerns/finest practices to go from Dry January to extra of a Damp February and past? 

Krysty: So, I don’t actually know the reply to that query, it actually is determined by what your motivation was for Dry January. Was the plan to only see when you might make it with out ingesting for 30 days? Or had been you on the lookout for actual well being advantages? Or did you notice that your ingesting has elevated over the previous few years and you already know you wanted to take a break?

Moderation, which is absolutely what Damp February is all about, doesn’t work for lots of people. For those who spend a whole lot of time bargaining with your self every time alcohol is concerned, which ends up in a whole lot of “guidelines” round your ingesting, you would possibly wish to take a step again.

You won’t even pay attention to these guidelines. They’ve simply change into a part of your inside chatter. That chatter would possibly sound like this:
I’m not going to drink on my own.
No ingesting earlier than 5:00 p.m.
No onerous alcohol in the course of the week
I’m solely going to drink white wine (or beer, or vodka, and so on.)
I can’t have greater than two drinks on every week night time.
I can’t drink greater than two nights in a row. 

The tip days of my ingesting had been full of elaborate and arcane guidelines that had been continuously shifting as I broke one after one other. I used to be letting myself down each day, and that form of self-disappointment was like a continuing stream of micro-cuts to my soul.

Take a second and take into consideration why you’re placing so many guidelines round your ingesting. You would possibly simply determine that it’s now not value it.

 

Tam: If somebody is studying this considering “I should not have an issue with my alcohol consumption however wish to take a extra aware strategy to what I eat/drink,” what questions ought to be explored when interested by alcohol consumption? 

Krysty: One of many first issues we have to do is transfer away from the language round ingesting and the idea that there are “drawback drinkers” after which everybody else. This results in disgrace, stigma, and judgement.

A way more helpful, and reasonable, mannequin to make use of with regards to speaking about alcohol is the concept of ingesting occurring on a spectrum. That’s the place the concept of “grey space drinker” emerged from, which encompasses everybody from the every-now-and-then drinker to those that are bodily hooked on alcohol. The fantastic thing about this mannequin is that you just don’t have to hit any type of a all-time low earlier than you may discover your relationship with alcohol, you get to determine at any level on the spectrum what’s best for you.

For those who’re able to get trustworthy with the position alcohol performs in your life, I might recommend sitting down with a pen and paper and answering the next questions. Get interested by your self, and take the time to reply truthfully. Don’t cloud your responses with disgrace, or judgement, or what your bestie goes to suppose. That is about you and the one life that you’ve, and whether or not or not you need a poisonous substance to play a job within the creation of that life. 

Is alcohol nonetheless working for me?
How is alcohol making me really feel?
What areas of my life has alcohol taken over?
Does ingesting align with the particular person I’m now?
What would “future you” inform “current you” on this scenario?

 

Tam: What if our associates have gone again to ingesting after Dry January, however we are attempting to proceed. Do you’ve got solutions/suggestions for the best way to make this a part of my way of life with my ingesting associates? 

Krysty: You would possibly want to search out new associates – haha. However, critically, if your folks really respect and assist you within the selections you make in your life, then it shouldn’t be an issue. However, in the event that they’re frequently attempting to push you to begin ingesting once more, whining that you just’re not enjoyable anymore, or that one shot of tequila gained’t do any hurt, then you definitely would possibly have to rethink who you’re spending time with. That you must determine for your self what you wish to do with the time that you’ve, and the folks you spend it with. 

Moreover, in case your buddy group is closely immersed in ingesting tradition – which means most social actions revolve round alcohol – then you definitely would possibly want to search out some new peeps that love to do various things.

 

Tam: Any favourite “drink” hacks to exchange that Friday night time cocktail? 

Krysty: I’m probably the most fundamental sober particular person round – and I’m pleased with ingesting a seltzer on my sofa to unwind after a busy week. However, I do know that folks have completely different wants, and I get that within the early days of going alcohol-free you may want one thing just a little extra thrilling. Fortunately, the alcohol-free market is on fireplace! There are such a lot of merchandise available on the market – suppose flavored seltzers, glowing teas, alcohol-free beers, wines, and spirits, kombuchas – I actually might go on and on. I’m frequently impressed on the locations the place I discover alcohol-free drinks – Goal, Dealer Joe’s, Entire Meals, common grocery shops, and native alcohol-free bottle retailers are beginning to provide such all kinds. My solely warning is be intentional when utilizing alcohol-free merchandise, particularly issues like alcohol-free wine or beer. For those who’re downing a bottle of alcohol-free wine most nights of the week, it’s form of like ripping off one bandage and placing on one other, and also you would possibly wish to discover why you’re caught in the identical behaviors. 

Did you do Dry January this yr and keep a dry or damp February? What’s your sober curious hack? ~ Tam

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